Understanding Why
Do not waste your time trying to understand why you are a single mom. Don't ask "why me?" You will never get an answer, and if you get an answer, it will not be an answer that satisfies you. So, there is no reason to attempt to understand why you received the "single mom card." Do not dwell there. Get over it. Move on.
More importantly, you need to focus on why you MUST overcome the challenges that come with being a single parent. Once you have a focus on WHY you need to prevail, it will give you the proper motivation for applying renewed determination to living your best life regardless of being diagnosed a single mom.
You must choose to be victorious in your life as a single parent for yourself first. Whatever we do for the benefit of our children, we must do for us first. This may sound backwards or selfish, but it is true. If we do not take care of ourselves first, how well will we be equipped to take care of our children? We need to strengthen ourselves in order to have strength to offer them. Get your affairs in order. Get your emotions in order. Get your life in order. Do all of these things for YOU first, so that you will be in a position to offer your children the best of you. This does not mean to neglect your children or to stop parenting them as you have. It simply means that the first motivation to overcome your challenges should be YOUR well being. Do it because YOU want it/need it, not because your children need it. Your children do need it, but like the addict, until you choose to do it for YOU, your attempts will be futile.
Our children watch us, and learn from us. Do you want strong, determined, emotionally balanced, successful children who are not limited or hindered by life's little hiccups? Children learn their skills and characteristics from those who they are influenced by. As parents, we hope to be the biggest influence in the lives of our children. Their success largely depends on our success. This is why we must perservere and make a difference for our lives regardless of the "single mom" label.
We have two choices when faced with a problem or challenge, including the challenge of being a single mom. . . we can rise above it, or lie down beneath it. It truly is a choice. Choosing to rise above the challenge is the first step in the right direction. Making the choice to rise above our challenge teaches our children to do the same when they are faced with challenges throughout life. It teaches them to live victoriously and to not settle for less than they want or deserve.
Remember this . . .
1. Choose to rise above. It is a choice, and it is YOUR choice.
2. Do it for YOU first, knowing that it will benefit your children as well.
3. Make that choice NOW. Don't live another day in defeat.
Do not waste your time trying to understand why you are a single mom. Don't ask "why me?" You will never get an answer, and if you get an answer, it will not be an answer that satisfies you. So, there is no reason to attempt to understand why you received the "single mom card." Do not dwell there. Get over it. Move on.
More importantly, you need to focus on why you MUST overcome the challenges that come with being a single parent. Once you have a focus on WHY you need to prevail, it will give you the proper motivation for applying renewed determination to living your best life regardless of being diagnosed a single mom.
You must choose to be victorious in your life as a single parent for yourself first. Whatever we do for the benefit of our children, we must do for us first. This may sound backwards or selfish, but it is true. If we do not take care of ourselves first, how well will we be equipped to take care of our children? We need to strengthen ourselves in order to have strength to offer them. Get your affairs in order. Get your emotions in order. Get your life in order. Do all of these things for YOU first, so that you will be in a position to offer your children the best of you. This does not mean to neglect your children or to stop parenting them as you have. It simply means that the first motivation to overcome your challenges should be YOUR well being. Do it because YOU want it/need it, not because your children need it. Your children do need it, but like the addict, until you choose to do it for YOU, your attempts will be futile.
Our children watch us, and learn from us. Do you want strong, determined, emotionally balanced, successful children who are not limited or hindered by life's little hiccups? Children learn their skills and characteristics from those who they are influenced by. As parents, we hope to be the biggest influence in the lives of our children. Their success largely depends on our success. This is why we must perservere and make a difference for our lives regardless of the "single mom" label.
We have two choices when faced with a problem or challenge, including the challenge of being a single mom. . . we can rise above it, or lie down beneath it. It truly is a choice. Choosing to rise above the challenge is the first step in the right direction. Making the choice to rise above our challenge teaches our children to do the same when they are faced with challenges throughout life. It teaches them to live victoriously and to not settle for less than they want or deserve.
Remember this . . .
1. Choose to rise above. It is a choice, and it is YOUR choice.
2. Do it for YOU first, knowing that it will benefit your children as well.
3. Make that choice NOW. Don't live another day in defeat.
posted by Forever Amber at 9:45 AM
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